I told Facebook and Instagram that I wanted to delete my accounts on November 9th, 2025. The system told me that I’d have until December 9th before it was all gone.
Today is December 9th.
My social media accounts are now completely gone. Wiped from the face of the internet.
Now that it’s been a month, I am sure that you are wondering how I am. If anything has dramatically changed in my life or if it’s all relatively the same.
I will tell you one huge thing that I have realized:
I had a false perception of who my friends were and who I had a close connection with.
I had a friend come up to me and say to me, “I realized that now, the only way I will be able to find out if you are pregnant, is if you tell me. I won’t find out on social media.”
As crazy as that may have sounded even just 25 years ago in 2000, it’s so normal now. It’s so normal to find out about everyone’s big life events by scrolling on social media.
One reason that I left social media was because I had several people I knew who I thought were close to me. I thought I was in the “close friend” zone, above the rest of their social media friends.
But when they had a baby or got married, I found out on social media, just like everyone else.
It might sound silly, but I felt sad. My heart hurt. I had thought that if we were close, I would have found out before the rest of the “social media friend” group. I realized that those people didn’t view me as being as close to them as I had assumed. And that hurt.
A beautiful thing that has come from leaving social media has been that I am sending photos and videos to the people that I actually care about. I’m not just posting it on social media for everyone to see; I’m sending everything to the closest people in my life. It has already deepened relationships and fostered connection and growth.
Social media has a LOT of amazing things about it. You can get so many amazing ideas and you can feel inspired and motivated.
Social media can also give you a false sense of closeness to people. It can make you believe that you have deep friendships when in reality, you’re just another follower; another friend who comments on posts.
I challenge you to look at your social media accounts and all of the friends you follow and ask yourself:
“Am I growing these relationships or am I creating false beliefs about them? Am I fostering growth and connection on an individual level, or am I doing the bare minimum; commenting on and liking posts?”
Do yourself a favor and actually ask yourself WHY you are on social media. Don’t give the same answers as everyone else- actually dig deep and figure out what your purpose is for being on social media.
If you don’t have a purpose, you’re going to waste more time and have more shallow relationships than you realize.
Keziah M. 
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